In Japan it's quite common for a grown man to adopt another grown man.
It started when company owners wanted to keep the company in their family but either didn't have sons who could inherit it, or didn't think their sons where up for the job. So what to do? Hand it over to their daughters? Ha! Don't be ridiculous! It's much more sensible to adopt a 50 years old man from work legally and keep the company in the family that way!
Gay weddings aren't allowed in Japan, so gay couples use this whole adoption business to become family in the eyes of the law. That way they can secure each other financially and be allowed to see each other in places where only family is allowed.
@PaxRomana I'm pretty sure this will be the next comic, or the one after that if something happens in the meantime that Humon has to make a comic about. Either way I'm pretty sure she wouldn't tease us with this if she didn't already have plans to make this comic
Actually the media is forcing to think that only traditional "gender roles" are acceptable. So they try to force it on gays.
I mean, I read a title about a newly divorced man saying "Will he be able to wash his clothes all by himself?!" I was like, wow, how demeaning. And I'm a woman who can equally good screw a bolt as do the dishes. Screw you media for thinking one or the other sex can't do one or the other thing, screw you!
'@loona' "And I'm a woman who can equally good screw a bolt as do the dishes"
No, not equally good. Screwing in a bolt is very difficult (if not impossible) for obvious reasons.
As a gay guy, I see no issues with traditional gender roles. Hell, my ex was very feminine, and I've always been masculine. I prefer it that way, and so does he. There is no point in getting all upset over someone asking this question. We all KNOW what he's asking. He's pretty much just asking who is the top and who is the bottom. *shrug*
@AGIS It's no surprise it's often asked that way either because gay relationships are clearly the exception, and that won't really change. The traditional gender roles also aren't completely arbitrary, but that's another talk.
I get getting annoyed by the questions being asked in terms that don't apply perfectly, but eh, the world ain't perfect.
@Synapse @AGIS I get why the question is annoying because the two people might also switch who's bottom and top, meaning there is no male/female role. When it comes to gender roles, I don't understand them. It's ok to be a girly girl or manly man just as it's ok to be a masculine girl or feminine boy. And then there's the concept of transgender, other genders, and agender. But to get to the point faster, what gender you identify as and how masculine or feminine don't really have anything to do with each other.
@ImTheDevilDog It's morally ok. It'll never stop being novel to someone not immersed in that world.
Nothing wrong with that, as long as neither party's an ass about that.
@AGIS It's totally cool that getting questions like that doesn't bother you. But for a lot of people, it does. As you point out, it is often a coded question for asking about people's sex lives. It's generally not okay to ask straight couples (unless you're really close with them) about how/what kind of sex they have, so it should be equally socially frowned upon to ask LGBT folks.
Funny.
My gay/bi friends all say that the most annoying thing in the world isn't ignorant straight people, but straight people getting upset on behalf of gay people, like the latter were sensitive flowers incapable of forming an opinion.
I dig it.
I get annoyed every time thin people start soapboxing on behalf of us fatsos.
NO. I'm not equating gay people with overweight people, I'm just not gay myself so I used fatties as an example since I am one.
Alternatively I can use hypermobility syndrome sufferers as an example, since I'm also one myself.
@DarkMage7280 I can obviously only speak for myself, but personally if somebody's being a dick then I'm happy to have a friend stick up for me.
Other than that I somewhat enjoy making jokes about it myself
Nothing better than responding to somebody who hopes you burn in hell with a smile and a reminder that that's where the best parties will be
But yes, I do feel like straight people make it into a much bigger deal than the LGBT people do :P
@BrandNewIain
Aspie here and I agree that if a friend's sticking up for me, that's nice. I just don't like it when neurotypical people get offended on our behalf and make a whole show out of it, it seems extremely performative--like they want to steal the spotlight instead of actually being concerned about us. If someone's sticking up for me because they care for me that's nice, but I'm not one for dispensing Ally Cookies to people.
@DarkMage7280
Yeah, I agree with that. The highly defensive heterosexuals usually go into "full scale bring it on weapons free", causing far more tantrum than if I just talk back myself, usually resulting in HBTQ+ supporters and HBTQ+ people looking very militant and unstabile. Finess, people, finess. Wait with the axe until they have pulled the knife first.
sorry for replying to such an old comment
It does seem to be a false dichotomy, having to equate a member of a gay couple as being the "opposite gender."
Also one of those questions I'd have to be blitzed to ask, too.
But you opened a can of worms, Humon...can we get Sister Denmark fixing fixing a truck while fighting off a skinhead with a broken bottle while Brother Denmark traipses around in a field picking flowers in a dress now?
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